How to Take in the Waist on a Pair of Jeans

If your jeans gap slightly or are a little too big at the waist, you may be able to fix the issue by taking in the waist yourself. If you are an experienced seamstress, take in the waistband in the back for a professional look. For an easier sewing project, try taking in the waist on the sides instead. Even if you don’t have the skills or patience to sew your jeans, you can still tighten the waistband without sewing by using an elastic band.

EditAdjusting the Back of the Jeans
Pull the waistband snug from the back and pin it in place. Put your jeans on and pull the back of the waistband with one hand to adjust it to the right size. Pinch the extra fabric of the waistband with your free hand and secure it with a large safety pin. Pinch just below the safety pin to pull out the excess fabric and secure it with a straight pin. Continue pinching and pinning down the back seam until there is no more excess to pin and your jeans fit well in the waist and hips.[1]
Be careful not to catch your underwear (or your skin!) when you are placing the pins.

Try to pin as far down as you can along the seat of the jeans. The further you go down, the less noticeable the transition from the original thread and your new thread will be.[2]

Mark the inside of the jeans along the pinned seam and take out the pins. Take the jeans off carefully. Place them face up on a flat surface and pull the front waistband down so you can see the inside of the back waistband where you’ve placed the pins. Mark along the center of the pinned seam with fabric chalk, making sure that it leaves a line on both sides of the seam. Then, take out the pins.
If you don’t have fabric chalk handy, you can also use a highlighter.[3]

Cut out the waistline stitching between your markings, plus on each side. Use a seam ripper to take out the top and bottom row of stitches along the waistband. Remove all the stitching of the two rows on the waistband between the chalk marks, plus on each side. Leave the stitching along the top edge of waistband and the seat of the jeans for now.
To make sure you don’t rip out too many stitches, try cutting the first and last stitch you would like to take out. Then, pull at the loose threads to take out all the stitching in between.[4]

Remove the belt loop(s). Take off any belt loops between your two chalk lines. To do this, carefully clip away the thread attaching the belt loop(s) to the waistband.
If there are any leftover threads from the belt loop after you remove it, leave them in place. Sewing over these when you reattach it later will help disguise the alteration.[5]

Take out the stitching from the top edge of the waistband and from the center of the seat. Carefully cut the stitching on the top edge of the waistband along the same length where you removed the two rows of waistband stitching. Separate the two layers of the waistband. Use a seam ripper to take out the row of stitching on the inside of the jeans from the waistband down to about below your chalk lines. Remove the corresponding stitching on the outside of the jeans as well to fully separate the seat of the jeans.
It may make it easier and more precise to cut the first and last stitch you would like to take out, and then pull at the loose threads to remove all the stitching in between.[6]

Fold the inner layer of the waistband and sew across it with a straight stitch. Fold the waistband across the center back line of the jeans, the midpoint between the two chalk lines. Fold with the right sides (the sides facing towards the outside of the jeans) facing each other, so the folded edge is facing you. Sew where the new altered waistband meets from the top to the bottom of the waistband with a single straight stitch.[7]
To reduce the bulkiness of the new waistband, you can cut off the extra fabric outside of your stitches. Leave about of fabric outside the stitches. Press the cut ends of the fabric with an iron so they open up on each side of the seam.[8]
You may find it easier to pin where you would like to sew and draw a chalk line as well to help keep you on track.[9]

Repeat the alteration with the outer waistband. Take in the outer waistband, using the inner waistband as a guide. Fold it in the middle, sew it, then trim and press the edges.

Sew the seat of the jeans back together with a single straight stitch. Pin the seat together by turning the right sides (the outside of the jeans) to face each other. Pin along the chalk lines you made earlier. Sew the seat together with a single straight stitch next to the pins.
It may help to take a hammer and pound the original jean seam you are sewing across in this step. This will flatten out the layers of fabric there and make it easier to sew across.[10]
Try on your jeans after you sew the seat to make sure the seams look straight and properly positioned. If anything looks funny, use your seam ripper to take out the seams and resew that section.[11]

Sew topstitching with a single straight stitch on the outside of your jeans. To give your altered jeans the same outward appearance again, use topstitching thread to sew from the existing stitching lines up to the waistband in two rows, matching the stitching on the rest of the jeans. Overlap a few stitches with the old stitch line to make it blend together better.[12]
Using a longer stitch length setting on your sewing machine can make the topstitching look more professional. Try stitch length.[13]
If you have a double needle for your sewing machine, you can also use that to sew both lines of topstitching at once, instead of doing the two lines separately.[14]
If you can’t find topstitching thread, you can also try to use two strands of all-purpose thread at the same time to get a chunkier look that will better match the original topstitching.[15]
If your jeans are very worn along the seat area and the topstitching you put in looks too new and out of place, try roughening it up a bit with a nail file.[16]

Sew the belt loop back on with single straight stitch. Sew the top and bottom of the belt loop back onto the waistband in the center. Be sure to match the thread color of the other belt loops.
It may help to hammer where you will sew first, since you will be sewing through many layers of denim.[17]

EditTaking in the Sides of the Jeans
Put your jeans on inside out and pinch the waist at the sides until it fits. Turn your jeans inside out and put them on. Pinch the waistband on each side until you get the right fit in the waist. Try to pinch an equal amount on both sides so that your jeans will sit evenly after the alteration.
You can secure the pinched fabric with a large safety pin to help you as you proceed to the next step.[18]

Secure the excess fabric on both sides with straight pins. Carefully put the pins in the waistband on each side where you have pinched the fabric, as close to your waist as possible to keep the jeans snug. Be careful not to pin your finger. Keeping pinning down the sides of the jeans where you can pinch out loose fabric. Pin as far down as you would like, depending on how you would like the jeans to fit.
You can pinch and pin just along the waist, down to the mid-thigh, or even all the way down to your knee if you want a extra skinny fit.[19]

Sew next to your pins with a single straight stitch. Carefully take your jeans off. Sew each side of the jeans along the pinned line. Use a sturdy denim needle, a longer stitch length than normal, and higher tension. Go over the stitches again with a backstitch (reversing back over your stitches) at the beginning and end to secure the stitching in place.[20]
Try a stitch length of 2 and a thread tension of 4 to start. If that doesn’t work, you can easily take out the stitching with a seam ripper and try again with different settings. Don’t be afraid to experiment until you are happy with how your seam looks.

Turn your jeans right side out and try them on. Try your jeans on again and check the fit. You can always take your stitching out and try again if there is something off. If you are happy with the fit, but feel like excess fabric inside the jeans is too bulky, you can cut it out. Leave about a border outside the stitching to prevent the fabric from unravelling. Otherwise, you can leave the fabric in.
You can also fold the excess fabric to one side and sew the end down so it lies flat inside when you wear them.[21]

EditUsing an Elastic Band
Pinch the extra fabric at the center back of the waistband. Put your jeans on. Pinch the excess fabric in the back of the waistband so that the jeans fit snugly.
Ironing the waistband before putting your jeans on can help make your measurements and fit more accurate.[22]

Mark each side of the pinched fabric on the inside of the jeans. Keep the fabric pinched. Use fabric chalk or a highlighter to make a small line inside the jeans on each side of the pinched fabric where you will want your new, smaller waistband to touch.

Cut two slits in the inner waistband to allow the elastic through. Remove the jeans and lay them with the front side facing up. Pull the front of the jeans down to reveal the back of the waistband. Cut out a few stitches from the bottom of the waistband below each of your two highlighter marks. Use scissors to cut a slit from one of the broken seams to just before the top of the waistband. Only cut through the inner layer of the waistband. Cut another slit on the other side.[23]
The slit should be at least long to accommodate the elastic.

Prepare a elastic band. Measure the elastic band and cut it so it is slightly smaller than the distance between the two slits on the waistband. Attach a safety pin to each end of the band.
The shorter your elastic band, the tighter it will pull the waistband.

Slip the elastic band through the slits and attach it to the jeans. To do this, attach one end of the elastic band with a safety pin to the waistband outside one of the cuts. Thread the other end of the elastic through to the other slit in the waistband. Attach it to the outside of the slit with another safety pin.[24]
You may need to cut out the tag from the jeans if you cannot push the safety pin through.

Only stick the safety pins through the inner layer of the waistband so won’t show from the outside.

If you want to alter the waistband again later, you can always use a looser or tighter elastic band.

You can also sew the elastic in place with a single straight stitch instead of using safety pins if you want a more permanent solution.

EditThings You’ll Need
EditAdjusting the Back of the Jeans
Heavy duty safety pin

Straight pins

Sewing machine with a strong denim needle

Seam ripper

Marking chalk

Measuring tool

Hammer or rubber mallet

All-purpose thread

Topstitching thread, in a color that matches the stitching on the waistband.


EditTaking in the Sides of the Jeans
Straight pins

Sewing machine with a strong denim needle

All-purpose thread


EditUsing an Elastic Band
2 safety pins

elastic band

Fabric scissors


Seam ripper


It’s best to alter a pair of jeans when it is freshly washed or dried. A pair you’ve been wearing all day will be little stretched out and that can throw off your alteration.[25]
It’s not a good idea to take in the waist more than because it can change the pocket positioning and affect how the jeans fit in the hips.[26]
Don’t try to alter your favorite pair of jeans until you have practiced a bit with other pairs first.[27]
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Today in History for 28th February 2019

Historical Events

1904 – Vincent d’Indy’s 2nd Symphony in B, premieres
1950 – “Alive and Kicking” closes at Winter Garden Theater NYC after 46 performances
1957 – Jockey Johnny Longden’s 5,000th career victory
1982 – ATandT looses a record $7 BILLION for the fiscal year ending on this day
2013 – 28 people are killed and 60 are injured after a series of bombings across Baghdad, Iraq
2016 – Explosion at Severnaya coal mine in Vorkuta, Russia kills 36, including 5 rescuers

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Famous Birthdays

1771 – French Jozef Kinsoen, Flemish portrait painter
1929 – Frank O Gehry, architect (Galleria-Oklahoma City)
1950 – Ilene Graff, American actress (Marsha-Mr Belvedere), born in Brooklyn, New York
1958 – Christine Lathan-Brehmer, German DR, 400m runner (Olympic gold 1976)
1963 – Claudio Chiappucci, Italian cyclist
1970 – Daniel Handler, American writer, better known as Lemony Snicket

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Famous Deaths

1746 – Hermann von der Hardt, German historian (b. 1660)
1908 – Pauline Lucca, Austrian operatic soprano, dies at 66
1968 – Juanita Hall, actress (Capt Billy), dies at 66
1991 – Guillermo Ungo, member of El Salvador junta (1979-80), dies
1999 – William Talbert, American tennis doubles champ (US 1942, 45, 46, 48), dies at 80
2013 – Bruce Reynolds, English criminal, dies at 81

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How to Heal Tennis Elbow

Tennis elbow is a commonly-used term for pain in the tendons at the back of the elbow and is often caused by repetitive strain. Although the condition can be painful, it’s usually not too serious. Fortunately, tennis elbow may get better on its own as long as you don’t do anything to worsen the injury. Taking pain medication and massaging the elbow also helps. Always check with a doctor when you first feel pain to check if you have a sprain or have torn the tendon, which requires surgery to repair.

EditResting Your Injured Elbow
Stop doing the activity that caused your tennis elbow. Although tennis elbow can be caused by playing tennis, the full range of potential causes is far larger. Any physical activity you perform that involves repetitive motions with your elbow can cause tennis elbow. It’s important that you stop doing this activity so your elbow heals. Non-tennis-related activities that can cause tennis elbow include:[1]
Lifting or carrying heavy loads

Daily computer and keyboard usage

Sports like basketball or hockey

Plumbing, gardening, or painting[2]

Modify repetitive actions if you cannot stop performing them. In some instances, your tennis elbow may have been caused by an action that’s part of your job or your daily life. If that’s the case, look for ways to modify the activity and cut down on the amount of strain you put on your elbow.[3]
For example, if you work in construction, your job may depend on you being able to carry heavy bags of cement. Try to modify the activity by having someone else help you carry bags or using a wheelbarrow to lug them around.

Rest your elbow for at least 1 week. It’s crucial that you give the damaged tendons time to recover and heal themselves. Do this by avoiding any activities that strain your elbow. Try not to lift anything heavy with your injured arm. If you can, minimize your computer and keyboard usage. Also try to find ways to physically rest your arm as you go about your day, so you don’t put unnecessary strain on the tendons in your elbow.[4]
For example, if you’re sitting on a sofa or in an armchair, keep the elbow elevated on the arm of the chair. Or, if that’s not comfortable, try propping up the elbow with 2-3 pillows when sitting in an armchair.

EditReducing Pain from Tennis Elbow
Wear a forearm brace to cut back on elbow pain. Putting a tight brace around the center of your forearm can take pressure off of the tendons in the sore elbow and the muscles that move your arm. This, in turn, will decrease the amount of pain you feel from the damaged tendons. When you put the brace on your arm, cinch it tight about below your elbow.[5]
Purchase a forearm or elbow brace at any large pharmacy or drug store. They’re usually inexpensive and should cost less than $10USD.

Ask a physiotherapist or partner to help you put on your brace to make sure it’s the right size.

Massage the painful points on your elbow with your other hand. Pinpoint the most tender or painful spot on your elbow. Use 3-4 fingers on your other hand to massage the tender spot with long, firm strokes. Exert moderate pressure, but not enough to worsen the pain. Massage from well below to well above that spot. Do this 1-2 times a day.[6]
You will find that the pain extends to the areas surrounding the elbow, so massage any areas that feel pain.

Use a small amount of natural massage oil to help ease the pain.

Ice your elbow for 15 minutes at a time. Hold a frozen gal pack or any other kind of ice pack directly against your painful elbow for 15 minutes. Do this 3–4 times per day, and space the ice applications out by at least 4–5 hours. Ice will help to reduce the tendon (and muscle) inflammation and will also cut back on the amount of pain you’re feeling. The cold temperatures may also reduce inflammation in the damaged tissue.[7]
You can purchase a gel-filled ice pack at any pharmacy or supermarket.

If you don’t have an ice pack handy, try holding a bag of frozen peas or frozen corn against the elbow.

Take NSAIDs to stop the pain and reduce elbow swelling. NSAIDs—non-steroidal anti-inflammatory medications—include ibuprofen, naproxen (found in drugs like Aleve), and diclofenac (found in Cambia and Cataflam). These medications will have 2 effects: they’ll stop (or reduce) your elbow pain and decrease the swelling in your damaged tendons.[8]
Always follow the directions printed on the side of the NSAID packaging. Do not exceed the daily recommended dosage.

Apply a topical NSAID cream to the elbow for a more specific treatment. Not all NSAIDs are taken orally. Drug companies also make topical creams that can be purchased over the counter at your local drugstore or pharmacy. Rub a topical cream directly onto the elbow that has tennis elbow. The cream will decrease pain and swelling, just like the oral NSAIDs.[9]
Follow the directions on the tube of NSAID cream closely. Do not use more cream than directed and apply the cream only as often as the packaging suggests.

EditPromoting Healing with Therapy and Stretches
Practice physical therapy to strengthen and heal your damaged elbow. Physical therapy geared towards strengthening the muscles in your afflicted elbow can help in reducing the symptoms associated with tennis elbow. So, ask your general practitioner if they can refer you to a therapist for help with your tennis elbow. The physical therapist will ask you to perform various exercises that involve eccentric contractions with your damaged elbow.[10]
Eccentric contractions occur when you tense an elbow by lengthening it (e.g., when you straighten your arm).

Stretch your wrist to maintain its flexibility. Gently rotate your hand that’s on the arm with a painful elbow. Pull the hand backward and forwards to stretch out the tendons connecting to the elbow. Also try rotating your wrist in a circular motion 5–6 times.[11] Stretching your wrist will also increase blood flow to the area, which should encourage the painful tendons to heal themselves.
If you feel an increased amount of pain at any time while you’re stretching, stop immediately.

Use a rowing machine after you’ve healed to stretch and strengthen your elbow. Rowing machines allow you to pull your body weight back and forth with both arms. This stretched and strengthens the muscles attached to your elbows. Stimulating these muscles can help prevent further damage to your tendons and help build strength.[12] Rowing machines are available at most gyms.
Talk with your doctor or physical therapist before using a rowing machine. Ask them to show you how to use proper form when you row. If you use improper form, you may damage your elbow further.

EditReceiving Medical Treatments
Visit your doctor if your elbow still hurts after trying other methods. In cases of severe tennis elbow, simply resting the elbow and treating pain with OTC medications may not be enough to encourage the damaged tendons to heal themselves. If your tennis elbow persists for more than 1–2 days, schedule an appointment with your doctor.
Also see your doctor if the pain in your elbow becomes extreme or no longer responds to ice and NSAIDs.

Receive steroid injections around your damaged tendons, if recommended. If you have tried a few methods of decreasing elbow pain and they haven’t been effective ask your doctor about steroid injections. Doctors commonly inject corticosteroids into painful tendons or muscles that need to regenerate tissue. If the initial treatment works, your doctor may recommend follow-up injections for a few weeks.[13]
The doctor administering the steroid injection will first inject a local anesthetic so you don’t feel the multiple injections in your painful tendon.

Ask your doctor about PRP injections to your damaged tendon. Treating tennis elbow with PRP—platelet rich plasma—is a relatively new method but it’s largely effective. You’ll need to visit your doctor or a surgeon and give a blood sample to begin the procedure. The surgeon will use a machine to remove the platelets from your blood sample and then re-inject those platelets back into your damaged elbow tendon.[14]
Platelets can heal damaged tissue and should greatly speed up the healing process in your damaged tendons.

The whole procedure should take only about 15 minutes. You may feel mild discomfort during the injection.

Check with your insurance provider to see if this type of procedure is covered for you.

Try shockwave therapy for a noninvasive option. If you—or your doctor—would rather not use injections to treat your tennis elbow, ask them about shockwave therapy. When you receive shockwave therapy, the doctor will use an electrical device to pass high-energy shockwaves into your damaged elbow. This will stop the pain that you’re feeling and will also encourage the damaged tendons to heal.[15]
Since shockwave therapy can be a little uncomfortable, the doctor may give you a local anesthetic first.

If you have severe pain or serious tendon damage, you may need to return for multiple sessions of shockwave therapy.

Consider surgery if other treatments don’t improve your tennis elbow. Surgery is regarded as the last option for tennis elbow, but may be appropriate if the condition has gone on for months without improving. To decrease the pain you feel from the damaged or torn tendons, a doctor will shorten or repair the tendons. This will take several months to heal.[16]
Your general practitioner will most likely refer you to a surgeon for this procedure.

Don’t sleep on the arm in which you’re experiencing tennis elbow. Try to sleep on your back or your side (e.g., sleep on your left side if your right arm has tennis elbow).

If you have any allergies to medications, check the ingredients in any medicated creams to make sure you won’t have an allergic reaction.

Some people have different levels of pain tolerance. Even if you’re feeling a minor pain in your elbow, get it checked to make sure it’s not torn.

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How to Lift a Heavy Object Safely

Lifting heavy objects on your own may look impressive, but it can cause serious injury and strain unless it’s done safely. Before you lift an object, always test its weight before lifting it. Depending on the object’s weight, you may lift it by hand or need equipment to transport the object over longer distances. If you have a job that requires constant heavy lifting or you’re just moving furniture around, practicing safe techniques can help lighten the load.

EditLifting Objects with Proper Form
Determine if the load is solid or contains liquid. While solids won’t move around when you transport them, weight can shift around if you’re carrying a container with liquid. If you can’t see into the container you’re transporting, jostle it slightly and listen for any liquid inside. If it is a liquid container, be sure not to tip or lean the object while you’re carrying it.[1]
Check solid objects for loose or moving parts before you lift them. These may fall off or change how the weight is distributed.

Try picking up 1 corner of the object to get an idea of its weight. Kneel on the ground next to your object and grab the corner with both hands. Try lifting up the object so 1 corner is completely off the ground. By lifting a corner, you can assume what the object’s total weight is and determine if you can lift it on your own.[2]
If you can’t lift the corner on your own, don’t attempt to lift the entire object.

If you’re trying to lift a tall object, such as a bookshelf, tip it onto its longest side first so the weight is easier to carry.

Stand in front of the object with your feet shoulder-width apart. Stand about from the object. Keep your feet at or slightly wider than shoulder-width. Position one foot slightly in front of the other so it’s along the side of the object you’re lifting.[3]
If you’re lifting an oblong object such as a table, stand on one of the long sides so the weight is easily distributed.

Avoid wearing tight-fitting clothes while trying to lift something off of the ground.

Bend your knees and keep your back straight as you lower yourself. Keep your knees bent as you slowly lower your body to the ground. Tighten your abs as you squat down to help keep your body straight and support your lower back.[4]Always keep your knees bent throughout the lift to help maintain your center of balance.

If the object isn’t on the ground, bend down as far as you need in order to grab the best handhold.

Grab the load so the weight is evenly distributed between your hands. Find sturdy handholds that you can easily hold onto. Aim to hold the object near the bottom or by its heaviest point so you can easily control the weight. Make sure you have a firm grip so the object doesn’t slip out of your hands.[5]For example, grab a table from the longest side and hold onto the tabletop or box apron underneath. Keep your arms shoulder-width apart to support the weight.

If the object has handles, use them if possible.

Wear work gloves if you want to get a better grip on your object.

Do not attempt to carry the object with only one hand.

Keep your back straight as you lift the load with your legs. Hug the object tightly against your chest as you straighten your legs. Support as much of the weight as you can just using your legs. Don’t arch or bend your back as you lift the object since it may cause pain. Keep lifting the object until you’re in a standing position.[6]
If you start lifting the object but can’t get back into standing position, set it down and ask for help. Don’t carry the object if you’re straining to lift it.

Walk slowly to transport the object. Keep your legs slightly bent to keep your balance. Take small steps so you don’t lose control of the object. Keep your eyes in front of you rather than looking down at the object. When you need to make a turn, shuffle your feet until you’re facing the right way.[7]
Avoid twisting your body while you lift the object.

If you need to carry the object a long distance, take a short break at the halfway point so you can rest and readjust your grip. Set the object down at waist-level if you can so you can easily pick it up again.

Bend your knees to set the object down. When you reach the area where you need to put the object, keep your back straight and bend your knees into a squat position. Make sure the bottom of the object has full contact with the ground before letting go.[8]
If you’re lifting and carrying boxes, set them at waist-level so you don’t have to bend down when you open them.

Ask others to help carry the object if you don’t feel comfortable with the weight. If you’re unsure whether you can carry the object after you test the weight, don’t try to lift it on your own. Instead, ask for a few helpers to carry the object with you to evenly distribute the weight between you.[9]
If there isn’t anyone to help you, search for a hand dolly or other mechanical assistance.

EditUsing Lifting Equipment at Work
Follow any heavy lifting policies your job has put in place. Check with your supervisor to see what the policies are for transporting heavy objects while you’re at the job. Go over the rules and policies so you don’t hurt you or anyone else while you’re working.
For example, if you need to move something on a factory floor and don’t know how, ask somebody else what should be done instead of lifting it on your own.

Don’t attempt to lift something if you’re not properly trained with the equipment.

Use a moving dolly if you need to move large appliances. Moving dollies allow you to move large appliances on your own across a flat surface. Put the lip of your moving dolly underneath the object. Strap the object into place on the dolly so it doesn’t fall off. Tip the dolly backward toward you to lift the object. Roll the object to the area you want to set it down and pull the bottom out.[10]
Ask for help if you can’t tip the object back on your own.

Moving dollies can be rented from most hardware stores.

Lift heavy objects with a shoulder dolly if you’re with a partner. Shoulder dollies are harnesses worn by 2 people so they can carry a heavy object between them. Slip the harness on over your head so it makes an X in the middle of your back and so the metal buckle is at waist level. Have a person stand on each side of the object put the lifting strap underneath. Hold onto each side of the object and lift with your legs at the same time.[11]
Shoulder dollies can be purchased online.

Shoulder dollies work well for large and bulky furniture, such as bookcases or desks.

Use a forklift or hand jack if you’re lifting pallets. Many warehouses or businesses that require heavy lifting have forklifts or pallet jacks to transport heavier loads. Line the tines of your forklift or pallet jack with the openings on the sides of the pallet. Either pull the lever on the forklift that raises the load, or crank down on the handle of a manual pallet jack to lift the load.[12]
Check if your company or area requires a permit for driving a forklift.

Make sure the weight is evenly distributed on the pallet so nothing falls off or tips over.

Wear shoes that have a firm grip on the ground, such as boots or tennis shoes.[13]
Never attempt to lift more than you’re comfortable carrying. If you doubt that you can carry the object safely, ask for help.[14]
Don’t try to lift heavy objects that are above your head since they may fall on top of you.

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Today in History for 27th February 2019

Historical Events

1670 – Jews expelled from Austria by order of Leopold I
1865 – Civil War skirmish near Sturgeon, Missouri
1900 – Battle at Pietershoogte during the Boer War
1912 – Lord Kitchener opens Khartoum-El Obeid (Nyala) railway
1961 – The first congress of the Spanish Trade Union Organisation is inaugurated
1987 – Donald Regan resigns as White House chief of staff

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Famous Birthdays

1850 – Henry Edwards Huntington, American railroad exec
1881 – Luitzen [Bertus] Brouwers, Dutch mathematician
1913 – Frank Allaun, British MP (L)
1927 – Michael Butler, Pro-Provost/chairman (Royal College of Art)
1936 – Chuck Glaser, American singer (Glaser Bros-Getting to Me Again), born in Spalding, Nebraska
1937 – Donald MacKay, CEO (Scottish Enterprise), born in Griffith, Australia (d. 1977)

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Famous Deaths

1167 – Robert of Melun, English philosopher/bishop of Hereford, dies
1805 – Stefan Paluselli, composer, dies at 57
1892 – Louis Vuitton, French founder of the Louis Vuitton brand of leather goods now owned by LVMH, dies at 70
1992 – Marinus Ruppert, Dutch trade union leader (CNV), dies at 80
1993 – Jose Duval, actor (Juan Valdez), dies at 72
1995 – Bernard Cornfield, financier, dies at 67

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How to Write Goodbye Letters

Saying goodbye is rarely easy, no matter what the circumstances are. A letter or email can help ease the transition for you and the people you’re parting with, and you can use one in a variety of situations. For instance, you may write a professional goodbye letter if you’re leaving your current job, or you may write a letter to your friend or partner if you’ve decided you need to go separate ways. You can also use a letter to help yourself heal from a broken relationship, one you keep to yourself instead of sending. You can even write goodbye letters to your loved ones to keep with your will, so they always have a part of you even after you’re gone.

EditSample Letters
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EditComposing a Professional Goodbye Letter
Be selective about who you send letters to. For the most part, you should only send out emails to people you know directly. Send emails to people you were friends with, co-workers you got along with but didn’t know as well, people under you, and your manager.[1]
The exception to this rule is if you’ve been at the head of the company for more than 3 years. In that case, it’s fine to send out an email to everyone in the company.

Begin with the date you’re leaving and a short explanation. The opening paragraph should establish the purpose of the letter, the fact that you’re leaving. Include the date of your last day and the reason you’re leaving, if it’s appropriate. For instance, saying you were fired is probably not the best thing to include; however, if you’re taking a position at a new company, you can include that information in letters to your friends.[2]
For example, you might write, “Just dropping a note to let you know that Friday, January 10 will be my last day at Rogers Incorporated. While I’m sad to be leaving, I know great opportunities are ahead.”

Use the second paragraph to establish what the person meant to you. While a form letter is appropriate sometimes, such as when you’re writing to the whole company, in general, you should personalize each letter to the person. Tell them how much you enjoyed working with them and what you appreciate about your professional relationship with them.[3]
For instance, you could say, “I’ve so enjoyed working together with you during my time here. You’ve got a great mind, and I love how you are always able to settle disputes. I hope we can stay in touch in the future.”

For a more generic letter, you might write, “I’m so proud of the work we’ve done together at this company. You all are hard workers, as well as being creative and team-driven. Let’s keep in touch going forward.”

Say what you enjoyed about working there. This option works especially well in a less personal letter. It’s a positive way to connect with the people who are still there, and it helps you end on a good note.[4]
For example, you could say, “I loved working at Rogers Incorporated. The relaxed atmosphere created the perfect environment for creativity to flourish. Everyone is so positive, and I’ll miss that as I move on.”

Keep the letter positive. A goodbye letter isn’t the place to complain or air grievances. You definitely don’t want to burn bridges that you may need later! Instead, stay positive and keep it civil. That way, you can still network with the people you worked with later. You never know when you’ll need that connection.[5]

End with your contact information and a positive closing. Your personal (professional) email is enough for most people. However, if you’d like to have the occasional lunch with someone, you might include your phone number or even home address.[6]
For a closing, you might write, “I wish you the best of luck moving forward, and I hope to hear from you soon!”

EditWriting a Personal Goodbye Letter to a Friend or Partner
Write a letter for yourself first if it’s a bad goodbye. That is, if you’re breaking up with a partner or letting go of a toxic friend, it’s best to get your own feelings out of the way first. Take time to write a healing letter and list all your complaints and hurt feelings. Use this letter to vent everything, and then you can move on to writing a letter for your friend or partner.[7]
The first letter tends to be emotionally charged. You may want to blame the other person for everything or hurl insults. But getting it out of the way is good because then you can move on to a calmer, more rational letter.

Focus on the good times. Spend at least part of the letter talking about what you like about the person and your relationship together. In most relationships, there are good times as well as bad, and no matter why you’re saying goodbye, you can still end on a good note by taking time to think about what was good.[8]
You could write about good memories, like how you met or when you fell in love.

Talk about what you like about the other person. Even though you’re saying goodbye to the person, you can still note what you liked about the person in the past. You don’t need to trash the person to move on, and if you really feel the need to, then maybe that’s a letter you should keep to yourself instead.[9]
For example, you could say, “I love your kind spirit, your willingness to go on adventures, and your compassion for everyone you met. You made me want to be a better person, and for that, I will always be grateful.”

Apologize and forgive the other person. If you’re breaking up, you both likely played some part in how ended. Don’t hold back. Apologize for any part you played in what happened, and if you can, offer forgiveness to the other person. That way, you don’t part with bad blood between you.[10]
For example, you might write, “I’m sorry for how things have ended between us, and I apologize for my part in that. I don’t hold any grudges against you, and I hope you won’t hold any against me.”

End with a kind sentiment if you can. If this person was special to you, you can make note of that at the end. Discuss how you’ll still think about the person in the future, for instance, and how you’ll remember the good times fondly, despite the fact that you need to go your separate ways.[11]
For instance, you might say, “I’m sorry that we have to go our separate ways, but I think we just don’t work together anymore. No matter what, you will always hold a special place in my heart.”

EditLeaving Your Loved Ones a Letter with Your Will
Write these letters now. You never know when today will be the last day. While that’s a stark fact, it’s also one we all must live with. Therefore, if you want to be sure your loved ones have something to hold on to when you’re gone, you should write them and include them in your will now, not wait until you are too sick to do it.[12]
This type of letter offers a way for you to tell your loved ones how much they mean to you, offer memories, and even apologize for past mistakes.

If you want to, you can continue to update these letters or rewrite them over the years as you age.

Use a template if you don’t know where to begin. You can find these on the internet. Typically, they’ll guide you through the process by offering questions you can answer. Writing this type of letter is much easier when you have prompts in front of you.[13]
For instance, try the template at

Talk about your regrets. If you’ve never had a chance to talk about them in person, you can say it here. You may regret something you did to the person or not spending enough time with them. Let them know that you’re sorry for your actions, and you wish you could’ve done better.[14]
For instance, you might write, “I regret that I waited so long to apologize to you for my actions. We could have had so many more years together.”

Forgive those who’ve hurt you. Some people will have a hard time forgiving themselves for the things they’ve done to you, and they may feel even more guilty after you’re gone since they can’t rectify the situation. Offering your forgiveness in a letter may help them forgive themselves.[15]
For example, you could say, “I know you feel guilty for the times you couldn’t be there for me. Don’t. You were the best child a person could ask for, and I know you did the best you could to be a part of my life. Please go easy on yourself.”

Express your love and thanks. Above all, this letter is a place to tell your loved ones what they mean to you. Don’t hold back; they deserve to know what they really mean to you. It can help to bring up memories of things you’ve done together or talk about specific things you love about the person.[16]
For example, if you’re writing to your daughter, you might say, “Never underestimate how much I love you. You’re the joy of my life, and I never for a moment regretted having you. You’re such a special person; your heart, your wit, and your smarts will get you so smart. I admire all you’ve accomplished, and I know you will do great things in the future, my baby girl.”

End by saying goodbye. This is a goodbye letter, after all, and saying goodbye will provide a sense of closure for you and the person you’re writing to. If you have spiritual beliefs about death, you can include those here.[17]
For example, you might write, “Even though my body will be gone, my spirit will live on, and I will be with you forever.”

EditWriting a Healing Goodbye Letter for Yourself
Use openings and closings. You may not feel like you need to use these because the letter is just for you, right? However, when you use these conventions of a letter, it makes you think about the other person and the relationship, which is a good way to get started.[18]
You can also write goodbye letters to things like addiction. For instance, you could write a goodbye letter to your cigarette addiction. Just treat the addiction like a person in the letter.

Another option is to write a letter to your future or past self to try to heal some of your hurt and anger.

Air all your grievances and complaints. This letter isn’t meant to be sent, so you can say whatever you want! Discuss what made you mad, what hurt you, what you’re still holding on to, and what you need to let go of.[19]
For instance, if you’re mad that your ex never listened, write that out in your letter!

Write down your feelings. This isn’t just about detailing the things you suffered through the other person. It’s also about getting out the emotions you’re feeling. Try to be honest with yourself and really get down to the nitty-gritty of the emotions you’re still going through from that relationship.[20]
Maybe you feel hurt or betrayed. Maybe you still love the person, but you can’t be with them. Get it all down on paper.

Use the phrase “I forgive you” if you can. When you’re feeling hurt and upset by a relationship, it can be hard to forgive the other person. However, when you haven’t forgiven them, it’s only hurting you, as you’re the one living with the grudge. The first steps to forgiveness lie in laying out your pain and actually writing the words “I forgive you.”[21]
While this won’t magically change the way you feel about the person, it can be a first step to letting go of your hurt and anger. Try to mean the words as you write them.

Destroy the letter or save it for later. It can be cathartic to destroy the letter. You can rip it to shreds or even burn it if you want. However, it’s also fine if you want to hold on to it. When you come across it later, it can serve as a reminder of how far you’ve come.[22]
It’s not a good idea to send it to the person. You can use it as a first draft for another letter, but this letter is really about getting your emotions out.

If you’re planning on sending a letter through the mail, consider writing it by hand. The effect will be more personal.

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