How to Keep Bleached Hair Healthy

Bleaching your hair dries it out which can lead to dull, damaged locks. Fortunately, with the right products and techniques, you can easily keep your bleached hair healthy and beautiful.

EditPurchasing Bleach-Friendly Products
Stick with sulfate-free products made for color-treated hair. Sulfates are full of salt, which can dry out and damage your hair. When picking up shampoo, conditioner, hairspray, or other products, read the labels carefully. Avoid anything containing sodium lauryl sulfate, ammonium laureth sulfate, or sodium laureth sulfate. You should also make sure that every product you use is formulated for use on color-treated hair to ensure your locks remain healthy.[1]

Invest in purple shampoo to keep your hair from looking yellow. A purple shampoo will gently tone your hair and keep it from looking too yellow or brassy. You can find purple shampoo formulated for bleached hair at your salon as well as beauty supply stores. Use it the same way you would a regular shampoo, and rinse it out with cool water to seal the hair cuticle.[2]
You can use the purple shampoo each time you wash your hair. If you find that it tones your hair too much, simply use a clarifying shampoo the next time you wash your hair to strip out the toner.

Do an oil treatment once a week to add moisture and shine. You can use coconut or argan oil to rehydrate your tresses. Put a small amount of oil in your hands and coat your hair from the mid-lengths to the ends. Cover your hair with a shower cap and let it soak in for a few hours, or even overnight. Simply rinse it out with cool water in the morning and you’re good to go![3]

Protect your hair from the sun with a UV-protectant product. The UV rays in sunlight can damage your hair and even cause it to turn a brassy color. If you plan to be outside, you can apply a UV-protectant product to your tresses to limit the damage from the sun’s rays. Just spray it on your hair as per the package instructions before going outside.[4]
Alternatively, wear a hat or scarf to keep your hair out of the sun.

EditWashing Your Hair
Shampoo your hair every 3 days to keep it from drying out. Washing your hair strips it of its natural oils, which can lead to dull, lifeless hair. If you prefer to shower more often than every 3 days, you can wear a shower cap to keep your hair dry.[5]

Condition your hair each time you wet it to smooth it out. If you skip the shampoo in the shower but still wet your hair, be sure to apply conditioner. Bleaching your hair can dry it out, and conditioner helps to strengthen and smooth the hair. Apply it from the mid-lengths of your hair to the ends and rinse it out with cool, not warm, water to close the cuticle and lock in the moisture.[6]

Use dry shampoo in between washes if your hair looks greasy. Dry shampoo is available in either a powder or aerosol variety. This product absorbs oil and adds texture and shine. If your hair is looking greasy or limp, you can easily refresh it with dry shampoo. Sprinkle a small amount of powder on the roots, or spray the dry shampoo from your roots. Massage the powder into your scalp then thoroughly brush your hair to distribute the product.[7]

Use leave-in conditioner to replenish your hair’s moisture. A leave-in conditioner can provide your hair with much-needed moisture and prevent it from drying out during the day. Choose a leave-in conditioner formulated for your specific hair type. Work it into your hair from the mid-lengths to the end while your hair is damp, and don’t rinse it out.[8]
You can use a leave-in conditioner every day if you want, or only once or twice per week.

Pat your hair dry instead of rubbing it with a towel to prevent breakage. The fibers of a regular towel can pull your hair and cause it to break. Instead of vigorously scrubbing your hair to get it dry, gently pat out the excess moisture. Use a microfiber towel or old T-shirt in place of a regular towel to prevent your hair from catching in the fibers.[9]

EditStyling Bleached Hair
Limit your use of heat-styling tools to keep your hair healthy. Heat-styling tools, like blow dryers, flat irons, and curling irons, dry out your hair and can cause damage. If you want to keep your bleached locks looking healthy, let your hair air dry and try no-heat styles like braids, buns, or beachy waves.[10]
You could also use Velcro or foam rollers to create cute no-heat styles.

Use a heat-protectant spray if you do use heat-styling tools. If you just can’t go without your blow dryer or flat iron, be sure to invest in a heat-protectant product. These products contain silicone which evaporates quickly, leaving your hair smoother and less porous. Heat-protectants also prevent moisture loss. Simply spray the product onto damp tresses, then comb it through to distribute it evenly. Style your hair as usual.[11]

Touch up the roots only to prevent further damage. When your hair grows out and the roots start to show, you may be tempted to bleach all your hair again. However, repeated bleaching treatments can severely damage your hair. Bleach only the roots, rather than all of your hair. It’s best to have this done by a stylist to ensure the color remains even.[12]

Get a trim every 6 weeks. Bleaching your hair makes it more susceptible to split ends, so you’ll want to have your hair cut regularly. Most stylists suggest you come in for a trim every 6 weeks to keep your hair as healthy as possible.[13]

EditPracticing Everyday Care
Comb your hair with a wide-tooth comb to reduce breakage. Bleached hair is fragile, especially when it’s wet! Instead of ripping through snarls with a regular hairbrush, use a wide-tooth comb. Begin at the ends of your hair and work your way carefully to the roots.[14]

Sleep on a silk or satin pillowcase. Cotton pillowcases actually draw moisture out of your hair. Smooth fabrics, like silk or satin, do not. These pillowcases also reduce tangles and frizz, leading to smoother hair and less styling time in the morning.[15]

Wet your hair with fresh water before swimming. If you have plans to spend a day at the beach or pool, you should rinse your hair before getting in the water. Salt water can dry out hair, while chlorine can turn it green. Wetting it with fresh water first keeps your hair from soaking up the salt water or pool water and will keep it healthier.[16]

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Today in History for 23rd March 2019

Historical Events

1026 – Koenraad II crowns himself king of Italy
1821 – Battle and fall of city of Kalamata, Greek War of Independence
1919 – 8th Congress of the Russian Communist Party re-establishes a five-member Politburo which becomes the center of political power in the Soviet Union. Original members Vladimir Lenin, Leon Trotsky, Joseph Stalin, Lev Kamenev and Nikolai Krestinsky
1930 – US Mens Figure Skating championship won by Roger Turner
1944 – Royal Air Force gunner Nicholas Alkemade falls 5,500 m out of a plane without a parachute over Nazi Germany and lives
1997 – “Mandy Patinkin in Concert” closes at Lyceum Theater NYC

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Famous Birthdays

1825 – Edward Lloyd Thomas, Brigadier General (Confederate Army) (d. 1898)
1834 – Julius Reubke, composer
1932 – Don Marshall, Canadian ice hockey player
1956 – Andrew Mitchell, British MP
1957 – Robbie James, Welsh footballer (d. 1998)
1972 – Joe Calzaghe, Welsh boxer

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Famous Deaths

1801 – Tsar Paul I of Russia (1796-1801) is struck with a sword, strangled, and trampled to death in his bedroom at St. Michael’s Castle aged 46
1832 – Vaclav Vilem Wurfel, composer, dies at 41
1982 – Mario Praz, Italian literary critic and scholar (Casa della vita), dies at 85
1994 – Luis Donaldo Colosio, Mexican presidential candidate, assassinated at 44
1994 – Giulietta Masina, Italian actress, (La Strada, Swindle, White Sheik) and wife of director Federico Fellini, dies at 73
2009 – Raúl Macías, A famous Mexican boxer (b. 1934)

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How to Help Someone with Anger Issues

Anger is a common emotion and can easily spiral into rage, so there’s a chance you will someday encounter a friend, family member, or partner who has trouble controlling their anger. You can help them, first and foremost, by reeling in your own emotions, as becoming upset yourself will likely worsen the problem. After responding appropriately and de-escalating their anger, try motivating them to get help for their anger. Having a loved one with a fiery temper can be stressful, so be sure to look after yourself too.

EditDefusing Tension in the Moment
Stay calm during tense situations. If your loved one gets angry, the only way you can effectively defuse the situation is by getting a hold on your own anger. Losing your own temper will only make matters worse. Breathe in and out deeply. Count silently to 100 or go splash water on your face to clear your head.[1]

Speak in an even, moderate tone of voice. Lower your voice, so that it’s just above a whisper. Doing this helps you maintain calm without shouting, but it also reinforces appropriate communication. Your loved one will likely follow suit and lower their voice, too.[2]

Give your full attention when listening. Many angry people get that way because they feel no one is listening to them. Turn off your loved one’s angry switch by giving them 100% of your attention. Turn to face them and hear them out without interrupting.[3]
Being a good listener could help defuse the situation completely. Be sure to pay attention to the underlying issue.

Show compassion towards the other person. Your loved one may act angry because they don’t believe they are being heard or understood. Be sure to validate their experience and let them know that you are taking them seriously and respect their opinions.[4]
Demonstrate your understanding by using reflection techniques. This might sound like, “I can see why you feel angry about the teller being rude to you,” or “I think I understand the problem. You feel overlooked.”

Assert your boundaries. Insist that your angry loved one treat you with respect. In a calm and cool manner, say something like, “I will leave if you don’t stop shouting,” or “I won’t continue this conversation if you engage in name-calling.”[5]
Once a boundary has been communicated, be firm and follow through if the person crosses the line.

Use “I” statements to discuss the problem. You want to steer clear of criticism or blame, so interact using “I” statements that convey your needs without placing blame. These statements don’t attack the other person, but they do let you communicate how you feel about the issue.[6]
For example, instead of saying “You are always shouting at me!” say “I feel anxious when you shout. Can we try to use indoor voices?”

Resist the urge to give advice. Angry people often view advice as criticism, so avoid trying to fix their problem. Just actively listen. If you want to try to work out whether your loved one merely wants to vent or needs a solution, ask them— after they’ve finished talking.[7]
You might ask, “Do you want help with the problem or did you just want to get everything off your chest?” before you try to offer advice. Or, you could say, “I understand your anger. How can I help?”

If your loved one tends to view you as critical, save your solutions for another time when they’ve cooled off.

Take a break if you need one. If you feel under attack or overwhelmed during communication with an angry person, ask for a timeout. You might say, “I don’t think we’re going to reach an agreement if we’re shouting at each other. Let’s take 10, okay?” Go someplace where you feel safe and get your own emotions under control.[8]
Listen to soft music, watch a silly YouTube video, or call someone who tends to calm you down.

EditInspiring Change
Focus on the issue, not the person. Have a talk letting your loved one know how their angry behavior affects you without making it seem like they’re the problem. This increases the odds of them cooperating with you and shows that you are concerned.[9]
Say, “I’ve noticed you’re angry a lot lately. It prevents us from connecting like we used to. It’d make me feel better if you talked to someone about it.”

Take note of patterns regarding what angers the person to determine underlying issues. For instance, if they often get upset when people gossip about them, the underlying issue may be that they value privacy.

Once you’ve determined the underlying issue, you can help the person develop strategies or create boundaries to deal with it. For example, if the person values privacy, you could caution them not to share personal information with their co-workers if it leads to office gossip.

Become aware of the anger scale. Anger doesn’t usually start out as anger. It may begin as annoyance, which increases to frustration, irritation, anger, and rage. Learn to identify signs of annoyance in your loved one so you can help de-escalate the situation before they become explosively angry.
If your loved one seems to jump straight to anger or rage, skipping the earlier stages, it would be beneficial for them to receive professional help to identify their triggers and learn intervention strategies to diffuse their anger.

Offer to accompany them when seeing a professional. Don’t just tell your loved one they should get help without offering your support. Tell them that you are willing to help them find a therapist or an anger management class. Offer to drive them to sessions and sit in the waiting room if they’d like.[10]

Pick your battles. You won’t make any headway if you have a tendency to nag your loved one about their anger problem. Plus, not every single issue requires a disagreement. Try to be selective when addressing issues. Pick your battles based on whether you feel like your boundaries have been violated.[11]
Also, choose your battles based on timing. Aim to talk through difficult issues when your loved one is calm, sober, and in a relatively positive mood.

Encourage your loved one to decrease their stress levels. People who are stressed are more likely to get angry more quickly, as stress feeds anger. If your loved one has a lower stress baseline, it will take more time for them to reach the anger stage. This gives you more time to recognize the early signs of anger and take steps to calm them down.
Your loved one could try meditation, yoga, exercising, breathing exercises, or other strategies to control their stress.

Be patient. Working with a loved one who has anger issues is like the waltz: you will take nearly as many steps backward as you do forward. Strive for patience with the person as they come to acknowledge they have a problem with anger.

EditCaring for Yourself
Confide in a trusted friend. Offering your support to someone with anger issues can feel draining. Be sure to get support of your own by reaching out to close friends and family. Ask them to hear you out as you talk through problems or simply distract you when you don’t want to discuss the issue.[12]
Avoid gossiping about the angry person or rehashing their issues. Instead, focus on what you need to do to de-stress.

Spend time with happy people. If everyone in your social circle is angry, you may become angry too. This is because people have a tendency to mimic the behavior of those around them. Make sure you have a well-rounded social circle that includes generally happy or optimistic people as well.

Practice self-care. An angry environment can make you feel stressed out or anxious. Combat stress with regular self-care activities, like getting a massage, listening to soothing music, soaking in a warm bath, or doing relaxing yoga sequences.[13]
It’s fine to want to support your loved one, but try to carve out some “me time” a few days each week to do nourishing activities to fill yourself back up.

Attend an anger management support group. Another way to get support is by seeking out others who understand what you are going through. Locate anger management support groups in your local area and consider attending a few meetings.[14]
You might feel relieved to hear that others are having similar experiences. Plus, they may have useful advice to help you cope.

Get help if anger turns violent. If your loved one becomes abusive, all bets are off. It is never okay to hurt someone else out of anger. At that point, you must direct your energy towards keeping yourself safe. Leave the environment if possible. Call a friend, family member, or speak to someone anonymously on a helpline.[15]
If your spouse becomes violent, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

If you are a child and afraid of an adult with violent tendencies, contact the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-Child.

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