How to Make People Feel Good

The ability to make other people happy is a great skill. You’ll seem more charismatic and more people will gravitate towards you. Keep the people around you happy by showing them that you care about them. Make friendly conversation by listening more than you talk and ask questions about people. Praise their accomplishments and remember details about their lives to make them feel important. In general, maintain a positive attitude and good sense of humor. These feelings are contagious to the people around you.

[Edit]Steps
[Edit]Having Friendly Conversations
Listen more than you speak. Try not to dominate conversations. If you do all the talking in a conversation, people will feel like you’re talking at them. Instead, let other people talk and only provide input when they’re finished. This makes you look like a polite, attentive person who cares what other people have to say.[1]
Don’t interrupt a person while they’re speaking. People don’t like being cut off. Always let them finish what they’re saying.
Of course, still answer questions if the person asks them. But don’t just look for the next time you can start talking about yourself again. Allow other people to talk.
Ask questions about the person. Keep conversations going by asking the other person about themselves. Give people the opportunity to open up and talk about themselves. They will appreciate talking to someone who listens to them. Even a simple, “How are you doing today?” makes people feel like you care about them.[2]
Don’t just ask superficial questions. Demonstrate that you were listening by asking questions based on what they person was saying.
For example, if someone is telling you about their vacation and mention they got a flat tire, say, “Wow, how did you fix the tire?” This shows that you’re not only interested, but were paying attention to the story.
Look away from your phone or computer when speaking with people. Don’t look distracted while conversing with people. Checking your phone or computer constantly makes you look rude and uninterested. Put your phone down and look away from the computer. Make eye contact with the person so they know you’re paying attention.[3]
If you do have to check your phone, excuse yourself and say, “Sorry, I have to check this for one second.”
If you are actually busy and don’t have time to talk, be polite about it. Say, “I’d love to talk some more but I have a work call to make. I’ll see you later.”
Be enthusiastic about what they say. Get excited when someone tells you something. If they share a piece of good news or an accomplishment, congratulate them. A simple, “That’s great!” will make them feel like they really did accomplish something and that you care about it.[4]
People sometimes get shy when you compliment them. If they say something like, “Oh, it’s no big deal,” you can follow up with, “Well just know I’m happy for you.” This maintains the personal connection with the other person without making them uncomfortable.
Return compliments if the other person gives them. It’s possible someone will congratulate or compliment you in a conversation. Thank them sincerely for the compliment, and then return a compliment. This makes you look both gracious and generous at the same time.[5]
A coworker might say that you offered a great idea in the meeting today. You could respond, “Thanks, I’m glad you liked it. With your skills I’m sure you can pull it off.”
Avoid criticizing their opinions. Inevitably, you’ll disagree with people on some of their beliefs or opinions. Keep the conversation friendly and don’t criticize them. Allow them to voice their opinions. That way, they’ll continue feeling safe and happy talking to you.[6]
You can still voice your disagreement without being hostile. Just simply saying, “That’s not the way I see it, but I get your point,” shows that you disagree but also gives the other person credit.
If you want to avoid confrontation altogether, you can just ignore their opinion and try to steer the conversation elsewhere.[Edit]Making People Feel Important
Remember details about people’s lives. This is a great practice for connecting with people and showing them you really care about what they’re saying. If you always forget things they’ve told you, it will seem like you aren’t listening to them. Make an effort to remember the details they’ve told you to increase your connection with the person.[7]
Ask about these details too. Someone might tell you on Friday that they’re going to a concert over the weekend. If you see them on Monday, ask how the concert was. This shows you were listening and that you care about them.
If you have trouble remembering things, try doing some exercises to improve your memory.
Show your interest with nonverbal cues. Certain mannerisms and body language show a person you’re paying attention. Nodding, making eye contact, and changing your facial expression according to what they say all shows the person that you’re invested in what they say. Don’t remain firm or unresponsive. This shows that you don’t care about the conversation.[8]
If someone tells you a story about something unexpected happening, widen your eyes and make a shocked face. They’ll feel like you’re completely invested in the story.
You can also do this when you aren’t directly having a conversation with someone. If a coworker is giving a presentation in a conference room, look at them while they speak. Nod along when they make a good point, and take notes. These all make the person speaking feel important and they will appreciate it.
Offer praise in moderation. Compliments and praise are great ways to make someone feel important. Give compliments to other people, but don’t overdo it. If you constantly compliment everyone, your praise won’t look genuine. Be sincere when you compliment people, and then move on.[9]
Don’t continue complimenting the person after they’ve already acknowledged your compliment. If they say thank you, don’t say, “No but really, you did a great job.” This could come off as fake.
Bring attention to their accomplishments. Compliments don’t only have to be private matters. If someone you know accomplished something, let other people know about it. The person will be happy to see that other people take their accomplishments seriously.[10]
This doesn’t have to be a grand gesture. You might be giving a presentation and say, “I’d like to thank John for doing a great job on these figures here.” This quick statement gives John credit without dwelling on the matter.
However, if someone asks you to keep something quiet, respect their wishes. They may want to be the one to tell a certain person or might just be shy about it.
Write thank-you notes if a person does something for you. Making people feel appreciated is another great way to show them that they’re important. If someone helps you out, take some time to write them a genuine thank-you note or email. Explain how they helped you and let them know you appreciate it.[11]
Personal thank-you’s work as well. Try to find the person and thank them. Saying, “I just wanted to drop by and say thanks for that favor you did,” shows that you went out of your
If you can’t find the person, a phone call is great too.[Edit]Spreading Positive Energy
Avoid gossiping and talking about other people negatively. Spreading gossip about people creates a more hostile and less friendly environment. If you get a reputation for doing this, less people will want to interact with you. Stay away from gossiping and make yourself someone that people feel comfortable talking to. They’ll be much happier around you.[12]
This is a good situation where thinking about the Golden Rule helps. Would you like someone spreading rumors about you? Probably not. So don’t spread rumors about others.
Treat people the way you’d like to be treated. This is often called the “Golden Rule” for a reason. If you want to make people happy, just think about what makes you happy. Then treat people accordingly. Live by this code and you’ll be a much friendlier person.[13]
Think about if you were talking to someone and you made fun of them for liking a certain band. Would you be happy if someone did that to you? Probably not. Reconsider your actions and apologize.
Smile as much as possible. Smiling helps you feel positive and also spreads positivity to the people around you. Make a conscious effort to smile often. You’ll look like a much friendlier person and people are more likely to come talk to you.[14]
Whenever you greet people, smile as you say hello. This is an easy way to spread more positive feelings.
Don’t try to make your smile as wide as you can. This will look fake. Just slightly turning the corners of your lips up makes you look bright naturally.
Have a good sense of humor. Having a sense of humor helps reduce your stress and keep a positive attitude. More importantly, people will gravitate towards you if you’re a fun person. Laugh often and try to brighten other people’s moods. This will spread positive energy all around you and people will appreciate it.[15]
Remember that having a sense of humor isn’t just about telling jokes. It’s more about keeping a lighthearted mood about things. If something negative happens, try to find a bright side in it. Be the person that stays optimistic when other people are feeling down.
Always know the limits for your humor, however. Don’t tell inappropriate jokes. If people don’t seem amused by your antics, tone it down.[Edit]Tips
Remember that every situation is different. If something tragic happens, it might not be the best time to show your sense of humor. Judge each situation and act accordingly.[Edit]Related wikiHows
Be Kind
Be Charming
Behave Around Those You Don’t Like
Make People Love You
Make Someone Feel Special[Edit]References
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Today in History for 13th January 2020

Historical Events

1893 – British Independent Labour Party forms (Keir Hardie as its leader)
1895 – Oscar Wilde’s “Ideal Husband” premieres in London
1976 – American inventor Ray Kurzweil and the National Federation of the Blind unveil the Kurzweil Reading Machine, the first omni-font optical character recognition system
1985 – Playing in his 436th career game, Edmonton center Wayne Gretzky scores his 400th career NHL goal and adds 2 assists in a 5-4 Oilers’ win over the Sabres in Buffalo
2001 – Earthquake measuring magnitude 7.6 strikes El Salvador, killing more than 840 people
2004 – Harold Shipman, a British GP who is believed to have killed more than 200 of his patients in Manchester, is found hanged in his prison cell

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Famous Birthdays

1734 – Luca Sorkocevic, composer
1749 – Friedrich Müller, painter and dramatist (d. 1825)
1805 – Thomas Dyer, Mayor of Chicago (d. 1862)
1898 – Pedro DE Teixeira de Mattos, Dutch diplomat
1909 – Marinus van der Lubbe, Dutch communist
1963 – Felita Carr, dance skater (and Komarov-1995 Pac Champ), born in Fort Lauderdale, Florida

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Famous Deaths

1924 – Georg Hermann Quincke, German physicist (Test of Quincke), dies at 89
1930 – Auguste Rateau, French mining engineer and inventor (Rateau steam turbine), dies at 66
1996 – Willian Myuon Bany Guerrilla leader, dies
2008 – Johnny Podres, American baseball player (b. 1932)
2010 – Theodore “Teddy” Pendergrass, American singer (Turn Off the Lights), dies of respiratory failure at 59
2015 – Trevor Leonard Ward-Davies ‘Dozy’, English musician (Dave Dee, Dozy, Beaky, Mick and Tich), dies at 70

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How to Sleep with Wet Curly Hair

There are several ways you can help preserve your curls if you’re sleeping with wet hair, whether you’re using a styling product or not. Put your wet hair up into a pineapple, braid it to keep it in place, or create a bun on top of your head to keep your curls bouncy. If your hair needs some refreshing in the morning, spritz it with water or use a leave-in conditioner to add some moisture to your curls.

[Edit]Steps
[Edit]Preserving Your Curls as You Sleep
Shower 2-3 hours before you sleep if possible. It’s best if you shower a couple hours before you plan on going to bed, as this will ensure that your hair isn’t soaking wet. When your hair is partially dry, it’ll be easier for your curls to take shape and remain curly overnight.[1]
Apply your chosen styling product to damp hair. This can be whatever styling product you normally use, such as a curl-defining cream to get bouncy curls, or an anti-humidity oil for hair that tends to frizz. Dab a bit of the product throughout your hair after you come out of the shower to help shape your curls as you’d like them.[2]
Consider using a leave-in conditioner as your styling product to help your hair retain its moisture throughout the night.
Choose a product depending on the kind of results you’d like, such as no frizz or softer hair.
Plop your hair for frizz-free curls. Spread a soft T-shirt on a flat surface upside down with the sleeves close to you. After you shower, flip your wet hair onto the T-shirt so your head is in the middle of the shirt. Pull the bottom hem of the shirt towards you so it covers the back of your head and wrap the arms of the shirt around your head to tie them together, holding the shirt in place on your hair.[3]
Sleep with the T-shirt tied on top of your head to let your hair dry naturally overnight, leaving you with perfect curls when you remove the shirt the next morning.
Use a shirt with long sleeves to wrap the arms of the shirt around your head more tightly.
Braid your curls for wavy curls. Braid your hair into one braid going down the back of your head, or create two pigtail braids instead. This keeps your hair from moving all about as you’re sleeping, but be aware that the braid may affect how your curls dry.[4]
Braid your hair after your curls have dried about 50% to help prevent them from drying in the same texture as the braid.
Put your hair in a loose bun for natural-looking curls. If you have long hair, this is a good way to keep your curls out of your eyes and prevent yourself from laying on them. Gather your hair up on top of your head and use a hair tie to create a bun, holding your curls in place overnight.[5]
Make the bun high enough up that you won’t squish your curls when you’re lying down.
Create a pineapple on top of your head for looser curls. Flip your hair upside down and gather it up on the top of your head. Use a loose hair tie or scrunchy to secure your hair on top of your head, creating a pineapple shape with all of your curls. This style keeps you from flattening your curls as you sleep.[6]
Gather your hair up as high on the top of your head as possible—this will add volume to your roots in the morning as well as keep you from squishing your curls.
Secure your hair in pin curls for bouncy curls. Take each curl or small clump of curls and use your finger to push them up towards your scalp, keeping them in their curl shape as you compress them. Use a bobby pin to hold each curl in place on your head. When you wake up, you’ll remove all of the bobby pins to reveal beautiful bouncy curls.[7]
It’s best to cover your head in a silk scarf or satin bonnet before sleeping to keep the pin curls in place.
Pin curls work well if you have short hair.
Use bantu knots to create defined curls. Separate your hair into small sections using a comb, and then twist each section from the root up until it forms a spiral. Continue twisting the section until it’s in a twist flat against your head, using a bobby pin to secure it. Do this to the other sections of your hair, creating secure curls.[8]
Consider separating your hair into 8-10 sections to create 8-10 twists.
Unravel each bantu knot in the morning to reveal your defined curls.
Cover your hair with a satin bonnet for extra protection. If you put your hair up in something like pin curls or a pineapple, placing a satin bonnet over your hair can help keep it in place and ensure your styling doesn’t come undone. Look for a satin bonnet at your local big box store or online.[9]
The satin bonnet goes over all of your hair with an elastic to stay on your head, keeping your curls from coming undone.
Exchange a regular pillowcase for a satin or silk one for softer curls. When it’s time to fall asleep, use a satin or silk pillowcase to keep your curls smooth. Satin or silk helps prevent friction, meaning your hair will slide smoothly over the pillowcase instead of getting caught on it which creates tangles and bedhead.[10]
Look for satin or silk pillowcase at your local home goods store or online.[Edit]Freshening up Your Curls in the Morning
Spritz your hair with water to reawaken your curls. Fill a spray bottle with water and spray a light mist over your hair. This will add some moisture and help revitalize your hair style, giving your curls more volume.[11]
Spray sections more heavily with water if you want them to re-dry a certain way or are styling them.
Step into a hot shower to use the steam to help style your curls. If you take a shower in the morning, turn on the hot water and pin your hair on top of your head to avoid getting it wet. The steam will help add volume to your hair so that your curls are full and bouncy by the time you’re done showering.[12]
Add a sea salt spray to your curls to redefine them. Spray a few spritzes of sea salt spray on the mid-lengths and ends of your hair to add texture and volume. If you find that your hair dries out due to the sea salt, add a layer of leave-in conditioner to help add moisture back into your curls.[13]
How much sea salt spray you use will depend on the specific brand of spray as well as how curly your hair is.
Apply dry shampoo to the roots of your hair for a quick lift. If your curls are feeling flat or your hair is already a bit oily, spray dry shampoo at the roots to add volume or on sections that could use a bit more definition. Dry shampoo is also great for separating clumps of curls because it covers up your hair’s oils and prevents the curls from sliding back into one another.[14]
Look for a dry shampoo at your local drugstore, grocery store, or big box store.
Spray the dry shampoo generously on the sections you’d like to be more voluminous.
Use a diffuser on slightly damp hair to reshape curls. If you wake up and your curls aren’t looking like you’d like them to, dampen your hair generously with a spray bottle. Use a diffuser attachment on your blow dryer to dry your curls, aiming the air straight up from the bottom of your curls to reduce frizziness while creating natural curls.[15]
Purchase a diffuser extension at your local big box store or online.
Consider drying your hair on a cool setting to reduce frizziness even more.
Give your curls a shake to add volume to your hair. If your curls are already fairly styled when you wake up, flip your hair over and give it a good shake. Use your fingers to lift up the hair at your roots to add even more volume.[16]
Shake your hair gently to avoid creating tangles.
Use a serum to smooth any frizzy sections. If your hair tends to frizz overnight, squeeze out a small drop of serum to apply to your hair. Spread the serum lightly over the frizzy sections of your hair, rubbing it in thoroughly so your curls aren’t stringy.[17]
Look for an anti-frizz serum at your local big box store or grocery store.
Spray a leave-in conditioner in your hair to add moisture. If your curls are feeling dry or in need of extra nutrients in the morning, spritz them with a leave-in conditioner. Spray the conditioner throughout your hair, lifting up your curls to ensure it reaches all of them.[18]
Look for leave-in conditioners that contain argan oil which helps lock in moisture in curls.
You can find a leave-in conditioner at a grocery store or big box store.[Edit]Things You’ll Need
[Edit]Preserving Your Curls as You Sleep
Styling product (Curl-defining cream, anti-humidity oil, etc.)
Soft T-shirt (optional)
Hair ties (optional)
Bobby pins (optional)
Satin bonnet (optional)
Satin or silk pillowcase[Edit]Freshening up Your Curls in the Morning
Spray bottle with water
Sea salt spray
Leave-in conditioner
Dry shampoo
Diffuser
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